Scroll to Info & Navigation

Reasons I am not a misogynist.


- or -

Let me tell you in exhaustive detail the reasons I am, in fact, probably a misogynist.

First of all, how dare you level these accusations at me. I do not hate women. Women are the best. I love women so much, I don’t want them anywhere near men in the media I consume. White men, I mean. POC are totally fine. Ha, just kidding - POC are never fine, especially if they take the place of a white man. Especially if a WOC takes the place of a white man. White man.

Women deserve equal treatment, so I hold them accountable according to the exact same standards of behavior as men. The only exceptions to this rule are when a female character does something I find objectionable to a precious male character, or holds his attention for too long, or is physically proximate to him at any time, or when she exists at all. If a male character behaves in an equally or exponentially more selfish, harmful, or deceitful way, I make sure to judge him harshly, but fairly, with total and immediate forgiveness. You don’t have to be a 24/7 hard case to be a feminist, you know. My expectations are higher for female characters because they mean so much more to me. You aren’t as progressive as I am, so you can’t understand.

Okay, alright, fine - maybe I dislike one or two particular female characters, or nearly all female characters, but that’s only because I find them so boring or divisive or treacherous. I can never create fic or meta about them because they’re so poorly written. They have nothing at all like the richly detailed lives of male characters, even ones who have never appeared on the show, but who I have squealed about obnoxiously at length. Personally, I hold the writers responsible. They obviously don’t know anything about women, like the fact that they should all be men. Is that my fault? Is my own miserable lack of imagination truly the source of my failure? Am I to blame for being so tragically dull and ill-equipped as a fan and human being that I am utterly incapable of fleshing out the lives of female characters, so I discount them completely from my interpretation of the show and its fanworks? Maybe. Whatever. I wish there were women with interesting, layered backgrounds, distinctive personalities, and inarguably important, pivotal roles, I really do - but it’s difficult to see them when I’m so worried about their subjugation by relationships with men. Those poor women characters deserve so much better than the abuse I can happily imagine a male character enduring.

Can I get a karaoke rendition of R-E-S-P-E-C-T up in here? Yeah, snaps!

To that end, I would never support a m/f ship. Heteronormativity is run amok in the media. So old and staid. I don’t acknowledge any sexual orientation apart from het and gay, though, because it’s go binary or go home, and I know which team I’m on. That’s right: any one that erases the possibility of bisexual, pansexual, asexual, and aromantic characters. Though if one of my preferred pairing isn’t gay, it’s perfectly fine for him to be asexual. Because I assume that asexual is synonymous with complete dissociation and better alone than oppressing a woman, I always say. And frankly, women shouldn’t be threatened by gay men. Any real feminist ships gay men in favor of anything else, since I’m pretty sure that support of LGBQT people equates to the rabid exclusion of any other orientation, but ‘G.’

Remember that representation is for everyone. Especially for women, but more improtantly, for white men. Particularly white men I can imagine locked together in a sweaty, mawkish romance. Particularly only white men, ever. It’s called being inclusive, look it up. If you think the only reason I dislike any female character is because of my fixation on getting two vanilla pudding jackasses to stage whisper naughty secrets into each others’ peeholes, then you clearly haven’t read my list of straw man arguments that only prove you right.

Who’s the misogynist now? Not me, lady-hater.


Not me.

:O sherlock's not irritating! He's a lonely child, with patience issues lmao

Asked by




He’s an asshole lmao

These two things do not have to be mutually exclusive.  Usually they come in pairs, the assholeness and the lonely child thing.  It’s the beauty of complexity.  Both are true.

I do think he’s lonely and it makes me sad but I think the fact that he’s been so lonely contributes to the fact that he doesn’t know how to interact with other people so he treats them badly

Oh there’s no questioning, the guy is basically an emotionally stunted little shit and there’s no excusing it.  I think Moffat compared him to a ‘genius child’ in the ASIB commentary, when he treats Molly badly at the Christmas party.  He is essentially a child.  Children have to be taught empathy a lot of the time.  Sherlock is just now beginning to learn it.  (and like a child he sometimes need’s whoopins from his parents coughMaryandJohncough)